The Best Sex Toys For Women:

My Personal Favorites

Written by: Angela Watson

I've been used to my body sexually longer than I haven't been by this point in my life. As soon as puberty struck I was there with a flick.

Over time I began to wonder if dildos and vibrators were something women actually purchased and used instead of something to be used as a gag on Friends or part of a dirty joke, and this lead me to discover the fantastic realm of female sex toys.

I've frequently added to my collection over the years as I find sexual release to be extremely cathartic and its allowed me to become more comfortable with my own body and my own sexuality over the years. 

When I can't have sex or just want to get the job done myself the way I want it done I've always reached to some of my favorite toys or tried to explore new avenues of stimulation. Not many things are off limits to me as the risk of missing out on great sensations due to personal hang-ups irks me far too much. 

Below are some of my experiences with those toys.

Dildos

What is more classic of a female sex toy than the trusty dildo? These phallic pieces of material keep me revved up day in and day out. They're the simplest and most minimalist way to masturbate as a female. No batteries & cords to deal with, no fifteen page instruction manuals, just some quality penetrative stimulation available at the drop of a hat.

Want to see all of the dildos I've checked out and think women aught to know about? Click here!

The Vixskin Mustang

If I could only have one dildo in my collection for the rest of my life, this would be the one. It's made of 100% body-safe silicone with enough give to remind me of a real penis but still structurally secure enough for me to feel satisfied.

When it's adequately lubed up it really does feel just like skin, it is also 7.5'' long and 1.5'' wide which puts it pretty firmly in the range that most women consider to be the ideal dildo size. 

The reason why it has a nice plush exterior and a strong interior both are  the inclusion of two separate layers. Some dildos try to find the perfect mix of give with only one layer which inevitably leaves one aspect less optimized than the other.

Add in the gentle curve that practically hones in on my g-spot and it's blatantly obvious why I have so much love for the Vixskin Mustang dildo.

Bullet Vibrators

It's blatantly obvious from the name what this category of female toy wants to accomplish. They're bite sized vibrators that try to put as much power as possible into a small package. Most of the time they shine in how well they service the clit, penetrative action is possible but hardly the main course seeing as how diminutive most of these can be. I'm like most women in that I need some attention to be paid to the clitoris if I'm expected to be satisfied. That's exactly why I keep my bullet vibrators charged and ready to go at all times.

Think bullet vibrators might be your jam but need more information? Check out my guide by clicking here!

We-Vibe Tango

I'll get past the nitty gritty of this toy as quickly as I can. It's 3.5 inches long and made from stiff ABS plastic. I personally find that ABS plastic vibrators can get away with a less overall powerful vibrator because ABS plastic absorbs less of the power than softer materials like silicone.

We-Vibe put some thought into the design of the tip, which does make the toy look at lot like a tube of lipstick. Besides adding to the stealth factor it allows for pinpoint stimulation of the clit thanks to the point or more generalized stimulation if you use the flat sloping edge.

There's eight different settings so whether its low-medium-high or interesting pulses and undulations there should be one you'll end up loving. It's powered by a rechargeable battery that takes about an hour to charge for two hours of life. I'm surprised that the most powerful bullet vibrator out there also has one of the best battery lives.

Wand Vibrators

Most women should be able to recognize a wand vibrator when they see one. The Hitachi magic wand has been a staple in popular culture for years now. They're vibrators that work by rotating the head of the toy and being placed on the clitoris and labia. No penetrative stimulation is on the table with these toys, they just aren't meant for that. Next to sonic vibrators they're one of the few classes of toys that I've noticed consistently rank extremely high when it comes to total female satisfaction.

Despite their simple concept, manufacturers have gotten pretty creative with their wand vibrators. Click here for a better rundown of what's available in 2020!

Lovense Domi

My love affair with Lovense toys will be blatantly obvious by the end of this article if it isn't already. Their commitment to body-safe materials and actually making worthwhile toys that work just as good as long distance sex toys as they do as regular ones is part of that love.

The Domi wand is completely wireless with another major difference from most wand vibrators. Instead of the head itself rotating there are two motors inside that do. That means there's no dreaded grindstone effect that can easily occur with toys where the whole head rotates.

So the powerful stimulation caused can be enjoyed without having to worry about moving the toy around so you don't get raw.  What's not to love?

Clit Vibrators

Sure, I did just say that bullet vibrators are mainly made with the clitoris in mind, but that doesn't mean all bullet vibrators are explicitly clitoral vibrators. A bullet vibrator is essentially just any scaled down vibrator, a clit vibrator is meant for the clit specifically and is a lot more customized to get that job done. No matter how easy your clit is to access and how sensitive it is, these are meant for a proper experience you won't soon forget.

Want more options in clit vibrators? Read my full writeup by clicking here!

Zumio

With the Zumio, it's all in the wrist. It's a lot more like using a stylus pen than it is using any other vibrator I've ever laid my hands on. The tip itself is made from 100% silicone while the controls as made from ABS plastic.

The tip vibrates slightly while the tip itself rotates in a 360 degree range of motion. Don't push too hard or else the tip will break, but if you push just enough you can use the rotation as pinpoint stimulation instead of it covering a wider area.

What's beautiful about this toy is just how targeted it's extreme power can be. A ludicrous amount of women have told me they've never had an orgasm at all. For them, I always suggest the Zumio since it's gentle enough for those new to the game but powerful enough to get the job done.

G Spot Vibrators

Ah, the fabled G spot. Science still isn't quite sure as to what is going on with the G spot, but I personally believe it's an extension of the nerves that deal with the clitoris. Either way, the G spot is a tender area of tissue found on the front end of the vagina that is way more sensitive than most tissue inside. It can be hard to track down because of its elusive nature. That's where a purpose built g spot vibrator can get a lot of work done, they're angled specifically to target this part of the female body.

I have an even bigger list of G spot vibrators that can be found by clicking here!

Lovense Osci

Just by looking at the distinctive S-curve of the Osci you should already know this is an expert level g spot hunter. The curve of the opposite end that goes inside of you makes it a lot easier to handle this silicone bundle of joy.

There's a lot of different settings available, but it should be noted that this toy doesn't vibrate necessarily. The small circular portion on the vaginal end is meant to oscillate in and out to massage the g spot into submission.

I enjoy hooking it up to my phone with the app & included Bluetooth support to better finely tailor the intensity of each little punch. This way, I can change the intensity based on how I'm feeling on any particular day and get a lot more satisfaction.

It's also USB rechargeable with a very agreeable battery life based on total charge time.

Rabbit Vibrators

Most rabbit vibrators are nearly identical to the average vibrator, just with one major change: an extra arm for hitting the clitoris. Apparently the name can be traced back to Japan in the 1980s when they had more conservative laws and toys with two "ears" were common. I personally think it's because if you look at them from the side they kind of resemble the Playboy bunny logo. They're for women who really like penetrative stimulation but are well aware of the fact that some extra clitoral stimulation while you're at it is much more likely to have you moaning out into the night.

My top 5 rabbit vibrators can be found on the page linked within this text.

Lovense Nora

A lot goes into making a proper rabbit vibrator. The inclusion of the clitoral arm shouldn't detract from the power and usability of the vaginal arm, that's for certain. It also needs to have the same level of control for both arms and of course be made from a worthwhile material. The silicone construction of this Lovense toy has that in spades.

With the use of the app each arm's power can be finely tailored so you can have a session that lasts just as long as you'd like, far too often I find rabbit vibrators I can't properly enjoy because of mismatched power levels.

Even with the manual controls, there's enough good settings for me to find my sweet spot and get an orgasm worth blogging about.

Sonic Vibrators

Here's a fairly recent entry to the world of female sex toys. These toys work by emitting sonic waves from a generator deep into clitoral tissue. What makes sonic waves so memorable is that they penetrate deeper into clitoris tissue than mechanical vibrations. Sonic waves also work to increase blood flow to the clitoris, something that makes each and every sensation all the more amplified already. A fully engorged clitoris is sensitive to even a particularly strong gust a wind, it's no surprise that most women find these types of toys the best for back to back orgasm action.

While they all use the same principle, not all sonic vibrators are made the same. Click here to see the best 3 I've ever laid hands on!

Lelo Sona

Comfort, power, and ease of use are the strong suits of the Lelo Sona. The exterior is made from body-safe silicone while the back plate is made from ABS plastic which is another good touch since everything is easy to clean and safe to use.

It's also completely waterproof, I can't say enough good things about using the Sona come shower time.

So as far as the toy itself goes there's a lot of different settings on offer, 8 to be precise. You should start off on one of the lower settings and let your clitoris get some blood flowing to it before going all in lest you risk some discomfort. It's really powerful, don't underestimate it.

A good sonic toy lets women enjoy multiple orgasms in as short of an amount of time as possible. With the Sona, that's been accomplished by a wide margin.

Wearable Vibrators

Have you ever seen the movie When Harry Met Sally? In it, a woman goes to a lunch date wearing a pair of vibrating panties. The controls are set off while she's there and she ends up having a public orgasm to another patron asking to "have what she's having". Wearable vibrators are more or less the same thing, although they skip the panty part. They're designed to be inserted and then left in place while you fiddle with the controls yourself.

Want a bit more information? Click here for my werable vibrator rundown (with a bit on vibrating panties to boot!)

Lovense Lush

When it comes to wearables I always suggest the Lush. It's simply the easiest to use & most powerful option out there.

Insertion is a breeze thanks to the tapered shape while it also rests on all the rght places inside the vagina. It can be controlled by your phone with all of the minutiae of specific settings figured out for you. Not only that, it has a full 30 foot range so your partner can even join in on the fun of watching you squirm.

For those who don't want to make a complex pattern there are still a handful of presets you can use to best punctuate a long, stressful day. 

The big antenna used to help pick up signals also doubles as a guarantee that the toy will never become lost inside of you. That'd be an awkward trip to the ER, now wouldn't it?

Kegel Balls

These aren't sex toys in and of themselves but I still find it worthwhile to include them. Kegels are exercises used to strength the muscles in the pelvic floor. WHen these muscles are strong, there's more overall tightness to any contraction of the vagina. Also, some women strengthen their kegels to improve urinary retention as they get older. Like any other exercise meant to make you stronger, kegels deal with keeping you sexually fit no matter what you've been through.

A full write up as to what kegel exercises are and why they're useful can be found by clicking this link.

Lelo Luna Beads

I like this set of kegel beads because you're supplied with four different weights to swap out as you become more accustomed to the process. Not only that, the balls are connected with a silicone sheath that I find really makes it easier to feel them in action.

Choose between either the 28g weights or the 37g wights and let yourself do your kegels for the day. No extra sensation is on offer here, there's no hidden motors inside that provide vibrations. The added benefit here is that you won't have to keep these charged of course.

They work, they're body safe, and I can't recommend them enough.

My Recent Reviews & Articles:

As a woman with an above average sex drive, I’ve used many sex toys over the years. I’m fairly certain that even at pawn shop prices I’d probably get a pretty penny for my collection. Now my goal is to use my knowledge of sex toys for women to help women everywhere find the best sex toys to suit their specific needs.

Since all of us girls get off to different things. As the saying goes, different strokes for different folks. 

Read some of the above reviews to find the perfect sex toy for you.

Things I Take Into Consideration

There are a few main things I take into consideration when I review female masturbation accessories/sex toys:

  • Build Quality
  • Durability
  • Extra Features
  • Body Safe Materials (this one is arguably the most important)
  • My Overall Level of Satisfaction
  • Build Quality
  • Durability
  • Extra Features
  • Body Safe Materials (this one is arguably the most important)
  • My Overall Level of Satisfaction

Tips For Buying Sex Toys

1. Beware Of Unsafe Toys!

The sex toy industry is notoriously sleazy by nature, there's no avoiding the fact that in an industry where toys like the Rompin Ryan or sex dolls mocked up to resemble famous celebrities can be shady and not always obviously above-board. As sex toys have moved out of the realm of shady stores and into the realm of online purchasing where everyday people can browse & purchase them without having to put on a trench coat and sneak into their local XXX DVDs shop, a demand for more mature and upstanding brands has been created and a lot more manufacturers are moving away from palpable sleaze.

It should not be forgotten that the undesirable companies are still around, however. Many unscrupulous sex toy companies or companies who simply aren't up to date with current medical knowledge of the effects of some materials are producing and selling thousands of sex toys that contain toxic chemicals. Anyone who cares for their well-being should know better than to stick anything toxic into one of the body's most sensitive orifices.

2. Avoid Toys That Contain Pthalates

Pthalates are a class of chemicals that are used in sex toys to make plastic softer or malleable, a desirable trait for many. Pthalates however are also used as something in which difficult to dissolve compounds can be dissolved into for whatever industrial purpose that can serve. Pthalates can "eat" through stuff, to put it bluntly.

Not all pthalates are of equal toxicity to the human body (and some may even be fairly benign) but it is worth mentioning that the USA bans the use of several pthalates in the use of children's toys and Canada has banned 6 different pthalates in children's toys. We all got so caught up thinking about the children that we forgot to think about ourselves.

Pthalates are known to change the endocrine system of the body, the endocrine system is responsible for hormone production and regulation. Not something I'd want in a sex toy I literally stick inside of myself. For this reason, its safest to avoid pthalates altogether rather than trust that the $5.99 toy you purchased from a factory probably based in a foreign country was made with safe materials. People have always cared more about a quick buck that the ramifications of their choices.

As pthalates are an effective solvent, there are more than likely microscopic abrasions and canals that can't be easily detected, these crevices are a breeding ground for bacteria and effectively make your toy a ticking time bomb for biological issues as they can never truly be considered clean. This material cannot be boiled, bleached, or anything all-encompassing that would make anyone with any idea of how hygiene works on board with using them more than just once or twice, if at all.

3. Other Materials To Avoid

  •  "Jelly" or any toy of mysterious gooey composition 
  • Rubber
  • Vinyl
  • PVC 
  • Toys with a distinct chemical smell or feel
  • Toys made of uncommon proprietary "skin" such as Cyberskin or any weird -skin that isn't known to be made from TPE (FleshlightSuperskin is safe for instance, which is what fleshlights are made of)
  • 4. Look For Safe Materials

    Materials that are safe to use include:

    • Glass 
    • Wood
    • Pure Silicone
    • Plastic

    About The Author:

    Angela Watson

    I'm a sex therapist by day and a sex blogger by night. I love to crush the taboos surrounding sex toys and help people become more sexually liberated. There's no topic too risqué for me to cover and I hope to educate and inform my readers on all things sex. All things that concern the female anatomy or require a more clinical approach than my husband Don can provide is covered by me.