How To Use a Vibrator:

A Simple Guide To Using A Vibrator (Like a Pro)

Written by: Angela Watson | Updated: September 7th, 2019

Every woman is shaped in distinct ways and different kinds of vaginal or clitoral stimulation is preferred by each individual woman. This is why most women go through around 2-5 vibrators before they actually manage to find one that suits their personal style. Some women prefer rumbly vibrations whereas others prefer shaky vibrations, while others need vibrators of a particular shape and size to really enjoy their session.

A high-quality silicone vibrator tends to run in excess of $100, and I would hate for someone to spend that money and think the toy isn't for them when they didn't fully understand how to take advantage of all of the bundled in features that come along with it. For this reason, I'm writing this guide on how to use vibrators of all types. 

The vibrator industry is very diverse and there's much more to them than your standard dildo + motor combination that used to be the bread and butter of vibrator technology. Now we have rabbit vibrators, wand vibrators, bullet vibrators, G-spot vibrators, the list goes on.

All of these toys were designed with a specific type of technique in mind, so I'm here to expand on that for you.

Ready? Let's get going:

Using Traditional Vibrators

We'll start from the most vanilla and then work our way towards the more connoisseur level vibrators. So, the most average kind of vibrator you can buy is your simple long and straight tube that has a motor inside of it capable of delivering vibrating power.

The first thing you should do with any vibrator is make sure that there's power in the device. If it's a rechargeable vibrator, you're typically going to have to give it a full charge cycle even if it comes with a little juice in it from the factory, so plug in any new rechargeable vibrators immediately after taking it out of the box. If it takes batteries, find some and put them in.

Next, you should acquaint yourself with the controls. Figure out how to turn the vibrator off and on and adjust the vibration levels if needed. Some vibrators are way too strong for some women, so keep in mind where the button is to ramp things up so you don't accidentally give yourself an unpleasant jolt of sensation by going too strong. Finally, make sure the vibrator is safe and free of defects that might cause you harm. Plus, most manufacturers will cover for factory defects but only if the device remains unused, it is a bit of a sanitary concern all things considered.

Never immediately insert a vibrator without adequately adding lube or preparing your vagina beforehand. Even solo sex requires some foreplay. Turn the vibrator on and make sure to take advantages of what it offers over the non-powered dildo. Vibrators allow you to apply pressure onto the clitoris to deliver strong vibrations deep into your vaginal tissues in ways not possible without added power.

So, you should slowly explore every inch of the inside and outside of your vagina with the vibrator so you can fully understand what sensations you like out of a vibrator. Play with the speed settings and experiment with how much pressure you can apply to different parts of your labia/clitoris as well as the walls of your vagina. When you find some spots that are particularly sensitive, you should mentally note them and have them in mind when you're looking at the shape of the next vibrator you're looking at to see if its a good fit for you. Make sure to experiment with all of the ridges and edges of your vibrator to see the effects of flat versus pinpoint stimulation. 

The majority of these tips can be applied to all vibrators, so unless otherwise specified the next few vibrators on this list should generally have the same procedure, I'm just going to explain what makes each of the sub-classes of vibrators so unique.

How To Use Rabbit Vibrators

The rabbit vibrator is the next step up from your run of the mill vibrator. It has two arms, a vaginal arm meant to be inserted in the vagina and a clitoral arm that also has a motor in it capable of stimulating the clitoris. The main selling point is that you'll be able to enjoy both penetrative and clitoral stimulation at the same time for added pleasure.

Unless you have a vibrator with a massive clitoral arm like the Nova, you'll only be able to take advantage of the clitoral arm comfortably when the majority of the toy is inserted inside of you. The exact placement of the clitoris varies from female to female and not all rabbit vibrators can reach each and every person. You should look for a toy that has a fairly long & wide clitoral arm for your first rabbit vibrator if you're not entirely sure about the placement of your clitoris. That way, you'll still be able to enjoy the toy and then further refine what you need out of a rabbit vibrator for your next try.

Besides that, they are more or less the exact same as the average vibrator, you'll just be treated to some added clitoris love.

How To Use Bullet Vibrators

The bullet vibrator is a favorite of women who prefer discretion and don't adhere strongly to the idea that bigger is better. They're typically no longer than 3-4 inches and are extremely compact, giving them the name bullet vibrator for their slight resemblance to, well, bullets.

Penetrative sex is not where bullet vibrators shine, so if you're looking for a feeling of fullness or something comparable to flesh and blood sex, bullet vibrators are not really for you. They're primarily for pinpoint stimulation of the clitoris and the entrance to the vagina. Some, like the Tango, have very strong vibrations that can make insertion worthwhile, but they're still best suited for being dragged across all of the plentiful nerve endings on the exterior of the body.

Most have a flat end as well as a distinct point, so make sure to press all of the different edges against your body at varying pressure levels to see what gets you off the best.

Even though they're small, they typically just have a smaller battery life compared to bigger vibrators. There are tons of really powerful ones while I will say that rabbit vibrators tend to be quieter than their larger counterparts.

How To Use A G-Spot Vibrator

These vibrators are just like your average vibrators except they all have an upward curve towards the end of the toy. A good example of a G-spot vibrator is the Osci. The purpose for this is to help you track down your G-spot and have most of the tempting and tantalizing power of the toy be targeted to that area specifically.

They shine best for penetrative stimulation and should definitely be adequately lubricated as they will be going pretty deep. Bare minimum, go slowly and allow your vagina to expand to accommodate the entirety of the toy. The bent edge can also serve your clitoris, but they tend to be pretty wide so you're definitely going to get more mileage tracking down your G-spot.

What I mean by tracking down your G-spot is that the chances are with even the most intelligently designed toy you'll have to do some shaking and moving to really hone in on what gives you the most pleasure. The curved design of the toy allows you to use leverage to apply pressure deep inside of you to bring you to an almost catastrophically intense orgasm. Rotating the toy slightly and using leverage to your advantage is key for getting the most out of your G-spot vibrator.

How To Use A Wand Vibrator

An example of the wand vibrator is the classic Hitachi vibrator or more modern Domi vibrator. This kind of vibrator is the biggest departure from your average style of vibrating toy because they aren't phallic in nature. The pleasurable sensations come from a vibrating head on the toy connected to the wand part where you actually grip the toy. They tend to have the biggest and most comfortable grips out of all vibrators, and they deliver unparalleled power since they aren't bound by having to be penis shaped.

Any worthwhile sex toy collection makes use of at least one magic wand, it's an absolute essential. They're best used by first turning it on and then applying it to the labia and clitoris. The toy can then be bobbed up and down or side to side for pleasure that goes off the charts. It's meant for absolutely staggeringly powerful stimulation to go right into the clitoris and radiate deep down into the clitoral tissue. Personally, I have trouble using one for over five minutes without moan-inducing orgasm, so keep that in mind.

To avoid numbness caused by the power typical of these toys, you should always keep the device mobile and not in one place for too long, don't chase the dragon!

The long handle and construction of these toys make for a very convenient and ergonomic way to gush uncontrollably, and for that, I'm thankful Hitachi released their "personal massager" all those years ago.

Conclusion

That's the basics to using the 5 basic types of vibrators available. Of course, there are some vibrators that are halfway between two categories or a weird mixture of attributes from several, but these 5 are the base models. If you carefully look at the size and shape of a vibrator before purchasing it, you should be able to get a better idea of what kind of stimulation it was intended to provide. Look for curves and edges meant to channel vibrations and figure out if it would work for you.

The biggest thing you need to have in mind for any of these toys is that you should warm yourself up manually to allow blood to flow to your genitals. This way, you're warmed up and ready and your nerve endings will be much more sensitive when fully engorged.

I hope this guide was helpful to all of you, happy bedroom experiences!

About Angela Watson

I'm a sex therapist by day and a sex blogger by night. I love to crush the taboos surrounding sex toys and help people become more sexually liberated. There's no topic too risqué for me to cover and I hope to educate and inform my readers on all things sex. All things that concern the female anatomy or require a more clinical approach than my husband Don can provide is covered by me.

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