My husband and I are big fans of any toy that helps us grow closer to each other physically and nurture the very special bond that we share. That's precisely why I love couples vibrators. They're intended to be worn during sex, with both the toy and a penis inserted at the same time.
What makes a couple's vibrator good is that they need to be small enough to not render sex impossible, but still enough to them that it was worth including it in the first place. Being able to stay in place and not be bothersome to readjust is another major qualifier for any would-be couple's vibrator.
That brings us to the Lelo Ida. For the uninitiated, Lelo is a luxury sex toy brand that prides themselves on well-designed toys meant to hit all of the right spots with the right amount of power. Because of this and the fact that a large majority of their toys are made from 100% medical grade silicone, they do come at a premium. Thus far, my experiences with Lelo toys has shown that their toys are worth the extra money, I really hope more people can figure out how to get batteries inside their toys that work as well as Lelo's.
The Ida is a couple's massager with vibrations that tickle the clitoris as well as the vagina. There's a few other noteworthy aspects of the toy that I'd love to share with you before I get to how well my husband and I liked it.
Specs & Design
This toy is made from 100% body-safe silicone and a bit of ABS plastic for the portion emblazoned with the Lelo logo. It's shaped not unlike a hook for a coat, featuring a distinctive curved shape that's tapered in such a way that the G-spot is the main object of the toy's affections.
As far as measurements are concerned, the toy is 6.5'' x 1.4'' x 1.3'' with a diameter of 1.5'' at the widest point. The Ida is intended to be used while fully inserted, with the portion that holds the vaginal arm seated snugly on top of the clitoris. The vaginal arm can be bent and flexed to suit nearly all body types, so there's little worry about getting the toy and then finding out you have incompatible biology.
The vaginal arm has a lot going for it, if I'm being honest. Firstly, much like toys like the Nora, the arm is able to swirl itself around 360° while in use on top of the stellar vibrations. The vibrations come from the clitoris section of the toy and do a pretty good job at conducting the vibrations down the line towards the end of the toy.
That does mean that the vibrations are strongest at the clitoris. The rotating end of the toy makes up for any sensations that don't make it all the way through. Vibrations are shared between the two partners, with the woman being able to feel the vibrations against her clitoris and vaginal canal while the man has his penis massaged all the while.
Ida has eight different vibration patterns to choose from, with everything from undulating waves to intermittent vibrations possible. Each of these individual patterns can be made more or less intense with the plus or minus buttons, respectively. Lelo's SenseTouch technology is also present in the remote. To use SenseTouch mode, simply cycle past the initial 8 vibration patterns and then move the remote around to determine vibration intensity. The more the remote moves, the stronger the vibrations.
Noise level maxes out at 50db, making it pretty quiet while inserted yet noticeable if used outside the body. The toy is also completely waterproof, I'd highly recommend giving it a shot in the shower since the steady stream of lubrication coming from the shower head can make the experience feel less crowded during sex.
As far as power sources are concerned, the remote is controlled by 2 AAA batteries that come provided in the box while the Ida itself is recharged via USB. It takes about 100-120 minutes to charge and can be used for about the same amount of time depending on what intensity level you use the most.
Our Experience Using It
Unfortunately Don was out of town for a full three days before I was able to give the toy a proper partnered test, although while waiting alone I did get to sample the toy in a much more personal manner. All lubed up and ready to go, I figured it would be a crime not to try it on for size as soon as I could. Included was the toy, the remote, batteries for the remote, a manual, the warranty card, USB charger, and those delightful little satin pouches they include with the toy.
I often only use the satin pouch sparingly as there's no mention of any antimicrobial qualities.
For safe and bacteria-free storage I use any of the items I've outlined in my article about sex toy storage options, it's worth a read if you want to make sure your toys are properly taken care of when you're not using them.
Inserting the toy is much the same as any other vibrator, there's just a little bit of necessity to mind your hand placement to get the right kind of torque to keep it moving in smoothly. It's a pinch smaller than most of my full-sized vibrators, so I can't say that I wasn't worried there wouldn't be enough room for both the toy and my husband when he finally reaches the bedroom from his latest business trip.
After extensive testing, I determined my favorite pattern out of them all is the one in which the vibrations gradually rise to maximum intensity and then return to a lower setting before climbing again, I like when my vibrators try and tell me a story. It did wonderfully on my clitoris, I was surprised to find that where the vibrations are strongest happen to be just about perfect for me, I suppose I'm blessed with ideal sex toy biology since these things always seem to happen to me. The rotating head isn't nearly as dramatic as Lelo suggests, but it does move enough for me to know more or less where in the rortation pattern the toy is, I like it because it makes up for the fact that the vibrations are weakest at the end of the toy since it is farthest from the motor.
Let's skip ahead now to when Don got home. His reaction to me using the toy before he got home was the same as when he found out I finished Orange Is The New Black without him, I had to use my powers of persuasion to help him move past it so we could properly test out the Lelo Ida. We've been around the block with couple's vibrators before, so far the absolute top choice would have to be the We-Vibe Sync (which I've reviewed here) they've been in the couple's vibrator sphere for what must be about a decade by this point. Enough about that, I'll tell you what came next.
First thing necessary was to insert the toy, everything went swimmingly to that effect. When fully inserted the toy stays in place very well, only positions where gravity has a huge impact on the toy like cowgirl end up being more trouble than they're worth. That's due to the fact that this is probably the largest couple's vibrator we own, so it makes sense it has the most structural stability.
Make sure everybody is lubed up, including the toy. Actually getting started can prove to be a bit of a challenge, as Don had a bit of trouble slipping his penis underneath the toy, add a few pumps into the mixture to make sure everything is adequately slick and things move much better. Sometimes Don will wear a condom explicitly for when we're using a couple's vibrator for the extra help they provide in eliminating chafing and keeping lube around for longer. We couldn't go at the usual speed & intensity that we're used to because of the crowding inside my vagina, that wasn't ideal but we made do. Don really enjoys how the vibrations are shared between himself & I, one of his favorite tricks is to press down on the part of the toy on top of my clitoris now and again to give me an extra jolt of sensation.
The real joy of the Ida is that you're sharing these special sensations with your partner at the same time, from the same device. It doesn't contribute to sex as it is typically pictured but instead works great as a way to spend some time together while getting off at the same time. To be truthful, having to hold and move around the remote for SenseTouch mode requires a lot of energy and planning to the point where we skip it entirely.
For those looking for an unnoticeable toy that just helps to clip in during sex, the Dame Eva II would be a better option. You can read my Dame Eva II review to learn more. For a toy that can mix things up in the bedroom as well as double as a fully functional toy in its own right, the Ida reigns supreme among couple's vibrators. I'd definitely say there's more here at play for Her pleasure as opposed to His.
Where I Bought Mine
I'm not able to suggest buying the Ida from any other source than the official Lelo website.
We make sure to use their site exclusively because it is guaranteed we'll receive a genuine product covered by the one year warranty. Because of our long standing relationship as customers for Lelo, they've been nice enough to supply us with a coupon to save us & our readers a pretty healthy chunk of change.
Get an extra 15% off by using coupon code "DRCLIMAX" at checkout. Click here to redeem!
With the addition of the coupon, I sincerely doubt there's anywhere else selling genuine, brand-new Lelo products at the same kind of price.
That's why we've stuck with buying directly from the source.
So there you have it, the Lelo Ida is a very functional vibrator in its own right and does as advertised as a couple's massager. If the penis in the equation is particularly large, there is a risk that you'll run into some problems with space or at bare minimum need lots more lubrication than you're used to.
At the end of the day, I think it serves a good place in the overall landscape of sex toys, but the specifics do make it more suited for some couples compared to others.
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