Ask Angela: Is Vagina Tightening Possible?

Written by: Angela Watson | Updated: April 15th, 2023

From My Reader:

Dear Angela,

I'm concerned about the tightness of my vagina. When I use toys or when I'm with someone sexually, I sometimes have a lack of feeling in the area and have difficulty having the intense contractions inside my vagina like how I used to when I was younger. I'm worried that over time my vagina has become "weaker," if that makes any sense.

So my question to you is, is there anything I can do to restore the sensitivity and make things a bit tighter down there? It's causing me a fair deal of stress so I'd love to hear back from you as soon as possible.

Eager to hear from you,

My Response:

Hey there Concerned, what you're going through happens to thousands of people worldwide and luckily, yes, there is something you can do about it!

The muscles that concern the area in question are the vaginal muscles and the pelvic floor muscles. These muscles can weaken as you age, resulting in a laundry list of issues that range from reduced sexual pleasure to difficulty holding in your urine for long periods of time or avoiding leakage. 

They're just muscles, though! What do you do when you need to increase the strength of any muscle? You go for a work-out, that's what! But how do you exercise this part of the body? I'll break it down for you:

You're going to have to start a regimen of what's referred to as kegel exercises. These involve tensing and then relaxing the same muscles you use when you try to cut off your urination mid stream.

To complete a set of kegels, all you need to do is lay down comfortably and then tense up the muscle group I mentioned early. Hold that for about 5-10 seconds and then relax for the same amount of time. Repeat this ten times to complete a full set and do that about three times a day.

After a few weeks you'll start to notice increased pleasure when having sexual activity and you'll be feeling brand new again. If you want to speed up the process or get better results, see if kegel balls are right for you. I've written a complete guide to using kegel balls if you'd like to learn more.

Hope everything works out well for you!


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About Angela Watson

I'm a sex therapist by day and a sex blogger by night. I love to crush the taboos surrounding sex toys and help people become more sexually liberated. There's no topic too risqué for me to cover and I hope to educate and inform my readers on all things sex. All things that concern the female anatomy or require a more clinical approach than my husband Don can provide is covered by me. Have any questions? You can contact me via email.

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