The Ultimate Guide To Anal Hooks:

What They Are & How They Work

Written by: Angela Watson | Updated: September 7th, 2019

Well, we've covered a lot of ground here on Doctor Climax and we're starting to run out of the more vanilla sexual fare. Don and I figured it was about time we got into the more racy ways you can spice things up in the bedroom.

Bondage and BDSM can be a boon for sexual couples looking to ramp up the intensity of their sexual encounters. BDSM should only be engaged between two people who have faith and trust in each other, as things can get very heated very quickly. The aim of BDSM is to satisfy the primal sexual urges within us and mix sex with a little bit of horseplay. 

Choosing to engage in bondage doesn't mean that you don't respect your partner, in fact it's quite the opposite. If you're comfortable breaking down barriers made by society to help each other get off sexually, it shows that you have more respect for your partner and how they feel than what people outside the bedroom would think. I personally believe people have no business in the bedrooms of others, so full steam ahead BDSM!

Today's accessory that I'll be talking about is none other than the anal hook. It sounds painful, but trust me, it's probably nothing like what you're thinking about. 

What Is An Anal Hook?

An anal hook is a curved piece of metal, with one end having a ball and the other having a loop. The function of the ball end is to sit comfortable inside the anal cavity of the submissive partner and the loop itself is used to either tie a rope through or a finger to be placed in to move the hook around.

Typically, these hooks are about one inch thick and up to six inches long. The balls can usually be swapped out for different sized balls based on personal preference as well as comfort. Inserting the anal hook carefully and making sure not to be too forceful are necessary to get the most out of the anal hook experience.

It may take some time, but there is a fine line between pleasure and pain that needs to be tip toed around. While that might put some people off, for others it's the whole reason to give it a shot.

How To Use An Anal Hook

Short answer: carefully. Seriously though, both the submissive and the dominant partner should be respectful of the anal hook process and not let themselves get too carried away.

The goal of the anal hook is to facilitate what is known as predicament bondage. When you have your finger in the loop and are leading your partner around or are using it to tie them up, it creates an environment of vulnerability, an "Oh, what a predicament I'm in" kind of vibe. The hook should be able to stay in place comfortably but also have a bit of leeway as far as movement is concerned. So, in this case I would suggest using very small amount of silicone lube on the ball end of the hook and then insert it inside the anus.

You can read our guide to anal lubes here.

Depth is up to personal preference, but personally I find its best to keep things close to the exit.

After the hook is inserted, what comes next is completely up to you. Either have the dominant partner move the anal hook around inside the anal cavity using the loop or get your partner to stand up and then thread some rope through the loop. Continue to secure the rope until your partner is barely able to move without moving the hook around. At this point, the recipient is hooked and is completely subject to the whims of the dominant partner. Tease or torment, completely up to you and how you like to get down.

Our Favorite Anal Hook

The Masters Series Anal Hook

We went with an anal hook that was big enough to be worthwhile and easy to maneuver as well as simple to clean. The Master Series steel anal hook was what we settled on.

Firstly, I was surprised at how light it was. Expecting to feel like a steel bar was put inside of me, I was surprised at how daintily I was able to move around without feeling like I just came back from all you can eat tacos.

The ball is 1.5 inches in diameter which is big enough for it to stay securely in place as well as not provide too much discomfort. I like the 1.5 inch ball because it pushes in on the shared wall between my vagina and my anus extremely well and the best way I can describe how Don gets me going with it is a strange, almost trombone like motion. While it is an anal hook, it works well as a vaginal tool as well. The steel is perfect for temperature play and I lose my marbles whenever my husband caresses my clitoris and labia with a chilly steel rod before inserting it inside of me. The curved shape makes for a lot of exploration, and I'm happy to say that on one occasion he even found my G-spot. 

We didn't do much in the way of ropes, but there was one time with a bathrobe sash that will go down in our sexual history forever, I'll spare you the more intimate details for both your and my husband's sake. We also tend to warm up the toy with some caressing and teasing before insertion just so there's not as much of a yelp factor.

Don is also a man committed to fairness and justice, which is one of the many reasons why I love him so much. He told me straight up that he wouldn't feel comfortable going through this with me unless he was on the receiving end for at least one session as well. He said that stainless steel is a bit easier to insert than the silicone toys he's used to and he like how the ball could swivel ever so slightly if given the right nudge. I think he's going to use it to give himself some prostate play when I'm not home, to be honest with you.

Clean up is devilishly simple with this toy, soap and water is all you need and there really isn't much else to worry about. Easy to clean, easy to use, and easy to store. All around a worthwhile addition to our toy set.

Parting Words

BDSM has changed our relationship for the better. We understand each other sexually much more and I'll tell you that trusting your partner with your actual, literal behind is way better than any trust fall exercises for building a strong and meaningful relationship both inside and outside the bedroom. The dominant and submissive roles don't have to conform to any gender norms and they can be fluid each and every time you go into the bedroom, just as much as they can stay the same time after time if that's your thing.

Communication is a huge part of proper BDSM play. Make sure to completely set your boundaries and what you'd like to get out of a session with your partner before you find yourself tied up to the ceiling with all manner of handcuffs and hooks coming out of your body. Going slow and getting yourself used to all of the sensations before adding new ones is essential to not feeling overwhelmed and like you snuck into a weird Berlin sex dungeon. 

I hope you all found this guide informative, we sure had a lot of fun making it.

About Angela Watson

I'm a sex therapist by day and a sex blogger by night. I love to crush the taboos surrounding sex toys and help people become more sexually liberated. There's no topic too risqué for me to cover and I hope to educate and inform my readers on all things sex. All things that concern the female anatomy or require a more clinical approach than my husband Don can provide is covered by me.

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