Foreplay, if done properly, can make the ensuing sex all the more worthwhile. You may have experienced this without fully understanding it, to be completely honest with you. Have you ever had a much more explosive orgasm than usual but the sex itself was rather ordinary?
A combination of inner tension and physical sensation can bring us to unforeseen heights when it comes to sexual pleasure, many couples get too used to each other and start to skip foreplay after a while, sort of just ticking off the box of having sex for the sake of it and forgetting just how beautiful and important the lead up to sex is.
In fact, I kind of dislike the aggressive separation made between foreplay and sex. I find them to be one in the same, just because there's no penetration or mouth/hand to genital contact it doesn't mean it isn't sex. It's mental sex at bare minimum. The best part is, foreplay can be as simple as a wink at dinnertime and as involved as laying on the bed covered in whipped cream.
So, this article is meant to help get the juices flowing with some ideas you can bring into the bedroom to keep your sex life exciting and engaging. Following these tips as they're written will work just fine, but adding some spontaneity and creativity will work wonders as well.
My 7 Best Foreplay Tips
Throw In A Striptease
Whether you're a male or a female, putting on some sultry lingerie or revealing clothing and then putting on some music for some sexy dancing will do wonders to put you both in the mood.
Sex is all about exploring and sharing each others bodies, and showing off how you can move and what your partner is about to be able to get a handful of will remind your each other just how sexy you think each other is. Tease, play, and draw out the experience, it'll all be worth it in the end.
Don't Neglect The Breasts/Nipples
The nipples and breasts are extremely sensitive, to the point where some women can reach orgasm through nipple stimulation alone.
Get inventive and try to move your fingers around, but don't overdo it as the sensitivity of the breasts can vary depending on how far along a woman is in her menstruation cycle. Smooth, circular movements as well as involving the tongue in as many interesting ways as possible is sure to get her engine started.
Remember getting/giving hickeys back in highschool? There's just something about the neck that gets us going when we're having a healthy make-out session.
Kissing, sucking, and playing with the neck is an absolutely fantastic way to raise sexual pleasure and keep tension going. The skin on the neck is thinner and more sensitive than skin on the other parts of the body. While you should know better than to give your partner a hickey by going all out, see how far you can toe the line while still keeping things fun and exciting.
Play With The Thighs
Simply running a single finger along the inner thigh can do wonders during foreplay. Foreplay is all about the lead-up to sex, and playing with the thighs is the ultimate tease. So close, yet so far.
There's nothing quite like being playfully given almost everything you've been waiting for, the sexiness of some thigh play is not to be understated.
Start Outside The Bedroom
Foreplay can be a day-long endeavor if you do it right. Let me explain a good example.
You start the day by making breakfast nearly naked, maybe just wearing a top or your underwear. You give your partner a kiss goodbye and a little grab. Throughout the day, you send them texts talking about how badly you want them or that you have a surprise waiting for them when they get home. Once they're back around, you keep the game up for as long as you possibly can before jumping their bones.
Sounds pretty great, doesn't it?
Add Temperature Play
The nerves on the body respond really well to hot and cold, and their associations take on a whole new dimension when used in the bedroom.
Bring some ice cubes along in a little tray and gently run them along all of the erogenous zones of your partner. We're talking the breasts, the thighs, and the neck. Move in slow circles and watch your partner ooh and aah as they feel the chill go through their body.
Heat works really well also. Warm up something nice and soft and use it in the same way you would the ice cubes. I personally warm up this gel stress ball we have by holding it under my armpit for a few minutes before using it on my husband, he can't get enough of it.
Use Music To Your Advantage
One of the easiest ways to make a memorable sexual encounter is to put on some groovy tunes to get you both going. Not only does the music help you both relax, you'll both forever have special associations with that song that will last for the rest of your lives.
The tempo of the song will set the mood for your sexual encounter. Want to make love? Choose a nice, slow song and go at it slowly and gently, slowly coaxing each other to climax. If it's a more rough and heavy encounter you're interested in, choose a song with a much faster beat and let yourself go absolutely wild.
Whether you just want to keep things spicy in your sex life or you want to recapture some of the passion in your relationship that might have gone away slowly with routine, foreplay is arguably one of the best ways to maintain your sexual connection with your partner.
Think of all of the extra things you can include in sex. All of the senses can be appealed to, whether it be smell, sound, feel, or even taste. The more unique and special the idea, the better.
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