Best Bondage Kits For Beginners: 
BDSM Kits For Bondage Play

Written by: Don Watson | Updated: April 26th, 2020

Out of all questions you could be asking your friends, what BDSM gear they like the most & what they'd recommend isn't a likely topic of conversation, so figuring out what you'll need to properly enjoy some bondage play can be a bit of a task.

From the items themselves to things like bondage furniture (speaking of which, we've talked at length about BDSM furniture in this article) it isn't always a simple task getting all set up.

Luckily there are tons of kits out there filled with great restraints, cuffs, and toys in general. I'd definitely recommend to all beginners to start with a BDSM kit so you don't have to worry about missing out on certain items. Even the well-spanked can benefit from BDSM kits to have a more well rounded war chest. No matter what you want out of bondage play, there's options out there to make all of those fantasies a reality.

How To Pick The Right Bondage Kit

Comfort

There is a fine line between pleasure and pain, BDSM practitioners often tread this line as close as they can possibly pull off to hopefully have a sexually satisfying experience.

Having a wide variety of different items with different materials can help you navigate this line with a lot more tact. A blindfold made of a soft satin material will be more comfortable to wear for long periods of time than one made of rough leather. Other times certain restraints have a lot more fine adjustment than others so you can make sure your partner is both tied up but completely comfortable.

Good BDSM gear should only provide the illusion of discomfort, not be something legitimately painful unless that level of pain has been explicitly asked for by the person taking part.

Durability

There's no lie that bondage can get pretty rough. So making sure that the kit you purchase has items meant for the level of use they're going to get is of the utmost importance.

Don't go for restraints that won't be able to support the full weight of the human body if you plan on using them like that, and at the same time don't go for an option so difficult to break out from that you'll have difficulty freeing your partner at the end of the day.

Contents

Many of these kits will come with some kind of basic restraints no matter what, it's the extras you should be looking out for. Things like a ball gag, nipple clamps, or a great set of cuffs could be the toys that separate a worthwhile set of BDSM toys from a glorified collection of rope.

If you carefully look at what each kit contains it'll be a lot easier to be spontaneous in the future so you don't end up being unable to add new dimensions each and every time you sit down for some extra fun.

The Top 7 Bondage Kits On The Market

#1. Lovehoney All You Need Bondage Kit (My Top Pick)

This item has the highest price of any of the kits on this list, that's because it's by far the most comprehensive kit out there with absolutely nothing left out.

If you want a kit that'll give you a great first impression of the kind of sensations you can experience with BDSM, this is the kit for you.

It's got everything you need right in the box: a blindfold, a rubber flogger, a stainless steel pinwheel to rub around the body, a collar, adjustable nipple clamps, a clitoral clamp, a pair of nipple ring clamps, a 5.5 inch ball gag, 5 meters of silky bondage rope, a waterproof bullet vibrator, a splash-proof g-spot vibrator, a vibrating cock ring, a penis stroker, 73g kegel balls, a 6 inch dildo, a silicone butt plug, 3-bead anal beads, 2 adjustable wrist cuffs, 2 adjustable ankle cuffs, and finally an under-mattress restraint system.

That's a lot of individual items!

Looking at all of those toys mentioned you'll be able to restrain your partner any way you'd' want to from all four limbs, have fun with nipple clamps who's tightness can be adjusted, silence them if necessary, improve handjobs with the textured male masturbator, throw in a cock ring, as well as engage in all of the anal play you could ever ask for.

If you need some more information about ball gags & how to best use them, check our ball gag article for more info!

So while the price is definitely on the higher end, absolutely all of your bases are covered with this kit. I like it best because the level of intensity can slowly progress using all of the very same items included. Your first session can be nice and easy while from there you can use this set to go into full on hardcore BDSM.


#2. Tracey Cox Supersex Beginner Bondage Kit (Best Budget Option)

So this kit deals mainly with the aspect of bondage surrounding restraints. Of the five pieces, four of them are restraints meant for the wrists and ankles while the final piece is a blindfold.

Each of the restraints are made out of a very soft fabric material that make sure that comfort is at the top of the list of priorities. Instead of extremely tough adjustment settings it is instead fastened using Velcro, even if you end up going too tight on your first use it's extremely easy to free your partner thanks to the Velcro design.

Overall this kit is absolutely fantastic if you want to dip your feel into the world of bondage. My only complaint is that the blindfold doesn't completely obscure vision but I can concede that for some people that's more of a feature than it is a bug.


#3. Lovehoney Oh! Get Started Tie & Tease Kit (Cheapest Option)

This is another set for people who would rather stay at the beginner's side of BDSM sex play by keeping the sensations as gentle as possible.

What's included is a blindfold, two ribbon wrist restraints and finally a mini feather tickler. OF course the aim here is to be able to have someone put the blindfold on during sex, tie them up, and then run the tickler along them sensually while they're completely unable to guess where you're going to touch next.

It's a guaranteed way to have your partner brimming from head to toe with goose bumps and each restraint is very un-intimidating, perfect for those new to the hobby. Each of the restraints require a bit of work to tie them up since they are very free form, ultimately this makes them comfortable since you'll be using tension to keep your partner in place as opposed to raw tightness.

It's very affordable for those who want to stay within budget while being more than comfortable enough for beginners.


#4. Bondage Boutique Black Bound To Please Under Mattress Restraints

One of the most difficult parts of proper BDSM sex is figuring out how exactly you're going to tie your partner up. If you're just starting to use restraints you'll notice this almost immediately.

So why not capitalize on the furniture you already have around to make a great environment for some quality play? All you need to do with this kit is to place it underneath the bed and the adjust the straps as necessary until your dearly beloved is stuck in your care.

The straps are made from nylon which then leads to the cuffs themselves with the use of metal connecting rings. Like other beginners sets, each of the individual cuffs can be adjusted with Velcro for that perfect fit.

What I love most about this option is that you don't need any particular attachment point to be able to use them. All you need is a bed that's raised off the ground to place the middle of the toy, since all of the straps are connected to each other so long as you thread them properly through the bed itself there's no chance of your partner being able to quickly free themselves from the restraints.

There are clips on the cuffs themselves when connecting to the metal rings so if you need a quick escape it's very trivial to disconnect each of the individual cuffs.


#5. Frisky Tame Me 8 Piece Bondage Set

I like this set because it's another very versatile option that doesn't break the bank.

The set of toys included are: blindfold, Velcro collar, 30 inch leash, wrist cuffs, ball gag, 18 inch tassel whip, 17 inch feather tickler. The cuffs themselves are also adjustable with Velcro so there's a lot of room for individualized comfort no matter which of the items you start with.

I'd recommend it to anyone starting out who isn't sure what toys they'll need to add to their sex kits moving forward. It'll let you experiment a lot with actual bondage clothing, some restraints, and sensation play thanks to the whip and tickler being included.

So if you want to just give BDSM a try in a very controlled and easygoing setting to see whether or not you want to work your way up to more intense options, the Frisky Tame Me set is the way to go.


#6. Hot Tie & Cuff Set

For those who'd enjoy full body restraints with a bit more versatility to them this set of toys works wonderfully.

That's because each of the four cuffs can connect to a ring with four connectors. So if you'd like to avoid having to use any furniture whatsoever you can just use all of the cuffs from behind for your partner to be completely restrained. On the other hand, you can also connect the cuffs to any just about anything the clamp will go around, with any combination of cuffs being possible. The cuffs can also connected to each other if you so please.

It's one choice that's ideal for someone who is very creative at heart with the desire to see where they can go with restraining their partner for the purposes of sex. Lots of different combinations are possible here while the smooth & soft fabric of each cuff means comfort is all but guaranteed.


The last kit is perfect for those looking to start off mainly playing with the power dynamics connected to sex.

It's a relatively simple kit containing only three parts; a flogger, handcuffs, and a red blindfold.

The paddle is made from faux leather instead of one that's made from hard plastic, you can really put some force into your hits and still keep it on the level where it "hurts so good" instead of just plain old hurting. It's also the option where more vanilla sexual acts are still entirely possible in between using some of the more BDSM flavored options.

I'd like to remind people to really not underestimate the power of the blindfold. This set of tools really might not seem like a whole lot, but the inclusion of the blindfold really does change what's possible. Having someone blindfolded while they know you have a flogger on hand adds a level of anticipation and tension that is absolutely out of this world. My wife would spend most of the time waiting for me to bring it out, and I abused that to the best of my ability.

Trust me, seeing the goose bumps in real time as you run the flogger gently up someone's legs while they are handcuffed is irreplaceable.


Why Do People Like Bondage?

To polite society BDSM can seem a bit out there, with people really wondering what motivates people to tie up their loved ones and have their way with them.

Bondage isn't just for the sexually deviant or people with some underlying issues, in fact BDSM can be a very healthy outlet for satisfying some of our more primal sexual urges.

At the end of the day, bondage play has everything to do with building trust between two people so they can both enjoy the manipulation of sexual power dynamics to have a fantastic sexual experience with each other.

This just makes sense, if you're going to let someone tie you up and have you in a position where you're completely in their control you'd better be able to trust them. Besides the increased trust the biggest draw to bondage is being able to exploit power dynamics.

By this I mean that some people enjoy being in a position of power sexually while others enjoy being able to sit back and let someone else direct the action. Other times, BDSM can be used to switch the power dynamics of a relationship: whichever partner is more involved in regular sex might take a less powerful position during bondage play.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with bondage as a practice so long as everyone involved as given their full consent & understand the range of acts that are likely to be practiced.

A Note On Consent

Before proceeding with any BDSM play it's of the utmost important that everyone involved has given their full consent. That means you should fully explain what kind of equipment you plan on using as well as what kind of sensations they're likely to bring.

Someone could be interested in just the restraint portion of BDSM with less focus on things like roughness or anywhere in between. That's precisely why obtaining consent is so important. Since part of BDSM play involves a small roleplay aspect a safe word is usually determined beforehand.

A safeword is used to stop the action immediately if lines are being crossed. It lets the other partner know that their desire for things to be taken down a notch is genuine and not something that's part of the character they're playing.

If you're in complete control over someone else, it is absolutely not cool to try something new that you aren't sure whether or not they're going to enjoy. Even if it kills the surprise, make sure your partner is 100% okay with whatever you plan on doing before you get down to it.

Final Words

So there you have it, from nipple clamps to cuffs to every kind of restraint out there, there's bound to be the right set of BDSM equipment out there for you. Figuring out which to start with is just a matter of figuring out what parts of sex you'd like to modify from the get-go.

I highly recommend some of the more comprehensive options if you're just starting out since you're probably going to qualify for free shipping for them anyways. There's nothing worse than wanting to integrate a new aspect to sex that you just thought up but being unable to because your kit was a bit too lacking.

If you're just going for a set that can help you restraint your partner, any of the restraint kits will do great. Those who desire a bit more roughness should make sure to find a kit with a flogger or some nipple clamps, and people who are just looking to get started should choose one like the Tie & Tease kit so they can be eased in as gently as possible.

Hopefully this list has given you some great ideas, if you have any questions at all about BDSM or the kits in this article, just comment below!

About Don Watson

My name is Don Watson and I love to support my wife Angela's passion for human sexuality. It pays dividends for me personally and I enjoy writing about the topic as I'm a sexual person by nature. I concern myself with everything on the website that has to do with the male reproductive system to compliment my wife's female-oriented content. Have any questions? You can contact me via email.

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